” Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” Steve Jobs

Someone recently asked me the definition of Codependency, so let’s take a look at what we can see to help uncover this complicated phenomenon. …


We have been looking at some of the costs and probable contributing factors of people-pleasing and now we are going to look at some examples.

I have had many clients come into my office with a laundry list of complaints about his/her spouse. One client, in particular, was talking about…


One of the most powerful foundations of a successful marriage is the quality of conversations the couple can have together. What does this look like when you are dating? Let’s look at 5 domains of concern conversations, I believe will enrich your dating experiences. Click here to read more.


“He /she makes me want to be the best person I can,” is music to my ears when I am working with people in the dating game. In this day and age life can be challenging and couples need to be real partners to succeed in life. …


So many women I interviewed when writing my book reported saying yes to sex just to get the sex over with and have the person go away. Others reported saying yes to sex to have a person like them. Others reported gaining weight so they wouldn’t have to say no to dating and sex. Many reported losing weight, feeling attractive, and wanting to put the weight back on so they wouldn’t have to deal with dating and sex games. Others reported being raped because when they said no, it wasn’t respected. Many reported drinking too much, knowing they had been taken advantage of sexually, and not remembering the specifics.

The stories go on and on and, except for being raped, they all have one thing in common: the inability to say no when you mean no. Read the full article here.


Most of us know or have known someone we care about who has come under the influence of a perpetrator using him/her for self-serving purposes.

Very smart, educated, healthy people can, for some unknown, reason come under the spell of opportunistic, toxic, and insecure people. …


Are you frustrated with someone you care about who appears to be the victim of a perpetrator? Do you find yourself getting angry for this person?

We all have examples of these situations and we often struggle with what to say, how much time to spend with the victim, and…


In Part I, we discussed how the codependent is a perfect victim for the narcissist. We discussed our working definition of codependency: a system of distortions that exists on a continuum. Codependents learn personality traits that interfere with knowing one’s self and others. Codependents take care of others, often ignoring…


For this discussion, we are going to stick with our understanding of codependency as a system of distortions that exists on a continuum. Codependents learn personality traits that interfere with knowing one’s self and others. …


In Part I, we identified some areas of concern for the codependent during these contentious times. Now let’s look at some possible tools for the codependent to use.

If you haven’t done your codependent work, now is the perfect time to begin. With social media, you can practice taking a…

Dr. Anne Brown

Psychotherapist, Speaker, Coach, and Author of “Backbone Power The Science of Saying No” www.backbonepower.com | New Release Audiobook: http://bit.ly/2VMTr9W

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