Codependency And #MeToo — A Brief History Of Abuse!

Our History

There were the start and stop efforts, but the abuse laws did not really gain “teeth” until around the middle to late 20th century. Around this time, money was allocated to professionals and agencies to identify abuse, educate people about abuse, and begin to enforce the laws which made it illegal. It would be nice if once a law was passed, it would be obeyed, but as we can see almost a century later that is not the case. We still have large systems (e.g. Catholic Church and the military) where they are allowed to “take care of their own” and thus these systems just enable the abuse to continue.

Belief Systems

  1. I own you; can sexually, physically, and emotionally abuse you. I am the stronger sex so I can overpower you and I will.
  2. What I do in my home with my property is my business. This is a private matter and I don’t have to discuss it with anyone.
  3. If I get into trouble for what I am doing it is not my fault. I will take it out and blame you. (In Malaysia, if a man is arrested for a DUI, his wife may go to jail as well regardless of where she was at the time of the offense. Part of the paradigm that women are fighting.)
  4. There are still countries that do not have strong laws to protect women and children. This fact enables men’s belief that “I own you.” It takes years to give laws “teeth” and change the belief system “I own you”.

The Challenges

Again take a look at the Catholic Church, a system that has maintained severe inconsistency in addressing this pervasive issue. It is a system that continues to “fight” to take care of its own, and in doing so enables them to commit abuse. In this day and age, no system should be above the law, and abuse should be tried by a judicial system. Why is this distinction important? This is the power of denial, enabling, and control that all those abused have to have the courage to confront.

Read the full article here: https://backbonepower.com/codependency-and-metoo-a-brief-history-of-abuse

--

--

Psychotherapist, Speaker, Coach, and Author of “Backbone Power The Science of Saying No” www.backbonepower.com https://amzn.to/2ZEdlqn http://bit.ly/getbackbone

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store