Divorce Visitation Requests from Your Child (by: Dr. Anne Brown, PhD, RN CS)

Part 2 — Read Part 1, the parent’s “notes,” at Dos and Don’ts of Visitation from the Therapist!

Dear Mom and Dad,

Please remember my life has been turned upside down and I never had a vote. I don’t have a rulebook to negotiate waters totally unfamiliar to me. It is really hard for me to understand that my family has broken up. I feel scared that I will lose one or both of you. I don’t know what to do with all the bad feelings I have. It would really mean a lot to me if you could do a few things to help me with the land mines I seem to be stepping on. Thanks for taking the time to listen.

1. Remember your “ex” is my Family!

2. Don’t Use Me!

When you interrogate me to get information about what is going on in “the other house” and you use that information for your “ex” issues, I will probably get in trouble. Make it safe for me to come to you to be able to talk about and get tools to handle things I don’t know how to handle in “the other house”.

3. Do get my Life back to Normal As soon as possible!

4. Don’t Spoil Me!

5. Do Let me have Some Say in our New Home.

6. Don’t make your Dating life a part of my Life!

7. Teach Me!

“Anyone can have a child and call themselves ‘a parent’. A real parent is someone who puts that child above their own selfish needs and wants.”

This article was originally published on Divorceforce and was re-published on Backbone Power.

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