Guidelines for Determining Toxic Relationships by Dr. Anne Brown | Backbone Power

A Quick Guide of Gauging Toxicity

  1. Keeping agreements.
  2. Handling finances.
  3. Treatment of you in many different situations.
  4. Treatment of his/her parents.
  5. The treatment of those they perceive is not his/her equal.
  6. Embracing your world with his/her world to create Our world.
  7. Respectful communication including resolving differences.
  8. How he/she handles anger/indignation (very important).
  9. Generous of heart.
  10. A good paradigm for emotional, spiritual, physical health.

These are just a few of the distinctions to be evaluated during your research project. Therapists cannot provide chemistry. If someone gets under your skin, we can’t fix it. We can only assist you in having a healthy relationship with a healthy person.

Warning signs this is not a healthy person for you are probably very similar whether you are in your research project or you missed the warning signs and are now in a relationship of some duration. Here are some distinctions to evaluate. If they are not present, you will be missing a good strong foundation.

1: Keeping Agreements

Our word gives us our dignity. Dr. Anne Brown

If I say I am a woman of integrity, and I am selling cocaine to children, I have no dignity, no integrity, and my word means nothing. If your partner, potential or current, cannot keep his/her word, this goes in the negative column in Bold.

2: Generosity

3: Authenticity

If a relationship cannot tolerate you having a voice, it will be toxic to your physical and emotional health. Dr. Anne Brown

4: Healthy Communication

Healthy communication embraces listening, apologies, respectful requests, caring, authenticity from both people and so much more. Dr. Anne Brown

Healthy communication usually results in some form of resolution for both parties. Unhealthy communication results in the victim becoming more destabilized, questioning, and insecure.

5: Healthy Boundaries

A healthy relationship doesn’t drag you down. It inspires you to be better.

Mandy Hale

Summary

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Published at https://backbonepower.com on June 23, 2020.

This article originally appeared here.

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