How to Leave A Narcissist! — by Dr. Anne Brown | Backbone Power
Stop Asking why they keep doing it and start asking why you keep allowing it.
Charles J. Orlando
Today we are going to address leaving a narcissist emotionally and physically. Many people feel they cannot leave physically because of logistical concerns (e.g. money, no support system, housing, etc.), so leaving emotionally becomes vitally important. Knowledge is the best weapon you have in this scenario.
The Components of Emotional Abuse
What do I mean to leave emotionally? For the purpose of this discussion, I mean work to NOT get caught in the emotional abuse trap of the Narcissist. Let’s look at a few key components of emotional abuse.
- Lying
- Blaming
- Criticism/devaluing
- Gaslighting/circular conversations
1: Lying
Whether the lying occurs on Day 1 or Day 5981 of your time with the Narcissists, don’t question yourself when someone lies to you. If you are a person of integrity, someone who keeps’s his/her word, don’t blame yourself when someone lies to you. Get out your journal (keeping a journal is a very good idea) and write down the date and the facts about the lie. Title this page “Lies I have been told by the Narcissist in my Life”. On Monday he/she told me we were going to my favorite basketball team’s game on Saturday. On Thursday he/she told me he never said we were going to the game.
The way you language the event (describing the person’s behavior in facts), then writing it all down, the reading and rereading, will help you not question yourself. I personally hope, if you need a page called Lies I have been Told, you will leave the relationship immediately. Remember in a new relationship with a Narcissist he/she will charm you while making fake promises to pull you in so notice this and act accordingly.
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