So many women I interviewed when writing my book reported saying yes to sex just to get the sex over with and have the person go away. Others reported saying yes to sex to have a person like them. Others reported gaining weight so they wouldn’t have to say no to dating and sex. Many reported losing weight, feeling attractive, and wanting to put the weight back on so they wouldn’t have to deal with dating and sex games. Others reported being raped because when they said no, it wasn’t respected. Many reported drinking too much, knowing they had been taken advantage of sexually, and not remembering the specifics.
The stories go on and on and, except for being raped, they all have one thing in common: the inability to say no when you mean no. Read the full article here.