The Power of Conversation While Dating

Dr. Anne Brown
2 min readFeb 15, 2022

One of the most powerful foundations of a successful marriage is the quality of conversations the couple can have together. What does this look like when you are dating? Let’s look at 5 domains of concern conversations, I believe will enrich your dating experiences.

1. Career

Now that you are out to dinner, on a hike, sailing, rock climbing, biking whatever your first date looks like, how are you going to let your potential partner know who you are? After you have exhausted the talk about the activity you are doing on your first date, one possible domain of concern to discuss is your career. It is a “safe” topic and if you ask enough and the right questions you can find out a lot about a person. What he/she does, why, how he got into his field, what she loves doesn’t love, where he wants to be in 10 years, anything else she would love to do, hobbies to balance the career, etc. are all great topics to explore. If you are asked first about your career, make sure you ask your partner the same. If you do all the asking, make sure you Notice if you are asked. If after several dates you are not being asked about your world, “Houston we have a problem.”

2. Family

At this point, the conversation will probably be about your family of origin or any past marriages. Later it will become more intimate about what you both want or don’t want for the family. Ask, listen, talk, and notice if you are asked! Go slowly. You don’t need to reveal all the family secrets on the first date.

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