“In a world where you can be anything… be yourself!”

“He /she makes me want to be the best person I can,” is music to my ears when I am working with people in the dating game. In this day and age life can be challenging and couples need to be real partners to succeed in life. So before you start dating get yourself prepared!

1. Self Clarity/the Offer You Are to Someone!

I mean really! Time to say good- bye to the hanger/ons and time to close all the Exit doors.

Are you a spiritual person? Are you willing to make room in your life for someone?

Set on a path to get clarity on what defines you as being special from others, find your voice and be that person! It helps the person looking for that very person find you!

2. Partner Clarity/the Offer You Are Looking For!

Somewhere in the must have/must not have, you might want to put the “really single” thing. So many people who are seriously interested in finding their life partner “forget” to ask or require this boundary. If you are a monogamous person, best you require the same from your partner. In this list you also want to put things like no sociopaths, liars, issues that are not predictive of a long lasting relationship.

Preferences include sports, classical music, reading, working out, theater, museums, travel etc. You may not match up in preferences and over time you may join your partner in his/her preferences because you love being together. I don’t call preferences deal breakers, and I do have concerns that if you don’t get the must/have, must not have list correct you could run into deal breakers.

3. Confidence and Clarity

4. Drive or Be Driven

5. Couple vs Single

Preparing yourself always makes the road easier. Take the time to do this!

“If he wants you to be in his life, he’ll put you there. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.

© 2019 Dr. Anne Brown; Psychotherapist, Speaker, and Author of Backbone Power The Science of Saying No. Permission needed for any form of reproduction.

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Psychotherapist, Speaker, Coach, and Author of “Backbone Power The Science of Saying No” www.backbonepower.com | New Release Audiobook: http://bit.ly/2VMTr9W

Psychotherapist, Speaker, Coach, and Author of “Backbone Power The Science of Saying No” www.backbonepower.com | New Release Audiobook: http://bit.ly/2VMTr9W