This question fascinates me because I have observed over many years many journeys where people struggle with this task (myself included.) Let’s take a look at some of my speculations. See what your thoughts might be on why People Pleasing is so challenging.
Our History and Teachings
For women, it is easy to look back at the history we are in and see that we have had to work hard for our rights. We have been considered an extension of our marital partners. The gender to be educated last in some cultures, the gender to serve, the gender to be barefoot, pregnant, and in the kitchen for starters.
If we take that to an even more detrimental level, we have been considered the “property” of men, which in many cases includes physical, sexual, and verbal abuse. There are many places in the world where this is still the case (and why, in my mind, we need to appreciate how far we have come as gender and stop this people-pleasing). We have a responsibility to carry the light. Since we live in a country where we are supposed to have a voice and rights. If we cannot stop this behavior when our environment allows and supports us to find our voice and claim our rights, how can women in cultures where they are still “property” ever find their way (and yet they are)?
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